Being Strong

April 23, 2019

The Gift of Not Doing It All
by Stacy Hemingway

Handstand StacyI remember a comment from a woman lying next to me at a Yoga Workshop after we were asked to try a really challenging pose saying to me, “Wow, I thought you would be able to do that because you're so strong.” I guess my strength could not combat her comments and opinion of my perceived physical form.

My parents were divorced when I was 7 and I had to be strong for my mom and my sister. As latch key kids we relied on our own choices and power to get us through the day.

I was called names and made fun of when I was younger because of my red hair and then the curse of glasses came when I was 13. All these defenses set up to protect and save me and made me stronger.

I was super independent as a kid and was working by the age of 14. I had to prove that I was worthy of the hard work, so I stayed strong. I was drawn to sports as a kid which helped me develop my physical strength. Skiing, rowing, and triathlons all affirmed that I needed to be strong to succeed.

stacy lungeIt was not until I was deep into my teaching and training as a Yoga Teacher in 2006 that I finally figured out that I didn’t need to be strong, I actually needed to soften. When we push in the practice of yoga we can actually hurt ourselves and our ego. It’s in the softening, allowing and letting go that I found myself becoming stronger.

Learning to soften into circumstance and become more skillful allowed my inner and outer strength to collide. I like to refer to my inner strength as Grace. A universal connection to myself and all other things. This integration of strength and grace combined allows a lightness and ease to guide me.

I have learned not to push or force to make things happen. That became exhausting. No matter my level of effort without grace, I just could not make it happen. What I still continue to learn from this is that I don’t have to put up a strong front. The weaknesses that live inside me are places for me to discover and to open to.

I continue to remind myself that the sweet, brave faced child inside of me that had to show the world she could manage it all, really just needed a hug.  She needed to be reminded that she didn't have to do life all by herself.

As I reflect back upon the woman’s comment about me in the yoga workshop I’m grateful that I cannot do it all. I have found my true inner strength through softening. 
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Stacy HDiscover your own strength through skillful means and inner softening. Enjoy sharing discussion, practice, and exploration with Stacy in her upcoming weekend workshop and teacher training at YMWA.

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